Ten years ago today, Cory and I were married and announced to all our guests by the priest..."And now I introduce you to Mr and Mrs Klinkert! Oops, I guess all that time we spent with the priest pre-wedding, he forgot to memorize our name. Or maybe it was payback for me for all of the disagreements we tended to get into in the planning and pre-marriage counseling sessions. "To honor and obey thy husband"...ahhh NO! Marriage is a two way street in my opinion and it has worked so far:)
We have had 10 great years so far. Of course we have had our learning experiences along the way, but it has only helped us understand each other better. Obviously, the biggest challenge thus far was grieving Beckett. THAT WAS HARD! I would sometimes have to bolt up to our closet and scream and sob into one of my sweatshirts. Not because he was doing anything bad, but because I may have been having a "silent moment of despair" and he was having a "moment of happiness" at the same time. It was trying and absolutely painful at times. It was ridiculously hard to not get mad at him and vice versa. It was hard to understand, connect, be empathetic, and forgiving.
However, we overcame all that with the support and help from lots of great people. Our love and admiration for one another shined through too. We are a much stronger and united couple since that tragedy.
That first week of fumbling through Beck's death were some of the most tender moments we have ever shared together. Some of the most raw and unfiltered. We were the only two people who understood the gut wrenching, heart crushing pain. That pain and experience bound us so tightly.
There have been plenty of wonderfully fun and deliriously happy moments as well. Obviously the birth of our three living children rank up there in the top. As well as the trips we have taken together. And just everyday things...we are a good match. I am so happy that he is in my life. And I hope there are many more great years in front of us.
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